neglected short- and long-term bullying effects
In May, The Daily News received several reports from parents concerned about incidents of allegations of bullying in public and private schools.
For this reason, the Daily News began investigating these allegations in a series called “Bullying and Onslow County Schools”.
We provided parents with a brief nine-question survey, detailing the accusations as to the type of bullying that happened, how long it lasted, and where it happened the most.
The second story featured statistics gathered from the survey, which showed some areas would have more incidents of suspected bullying than others, how parents described their child being bullied, and how schools had dealt with the incident.
Typically, parents say the pandemic has taken its toll on children, causing short-term effects where children must re-acclimatize to the world. However, parents play a bigger role in their children’s behavior whether they realize it or not.
There are other cases that tell deeper stories and while some incidents of bullying are similar, most are not. We hear about one side, but most forget about the others who might be affected.
Read the series so far:
Bullying and Onslow County Schools Part 1 – Take This Short Survey
Bullying and Onslow County Schools Part 2- What is Bullying? Parents respond
The effects of harassment go far beyond the victim
The Del Mar Center for Behavioral Health in Jacksonville is a multi-specialty practice.
Professionals from different disciplines work together to help children and families achieve their mental health and wellness goals, with the goal of supporting the whole family when mental health or behavioral issues arise.
Why is this important? Because these challenges can impact the whole family unit, according to Dr Rebecca Tagg PsyD, MSCP, NCSP, BCBA-D.
When it comes to an environment outside the home, bullying behaviors impact not only those who are bullied, but also the bully himself and those who witness the incident. .
“Often times we remember to focus on those who are being bullied and we may not remember that the bully and those who witness bullying are also likely to experience negative effects,” said Tagg. “The impacts can be seen in the academic, social, emotional and physical areas of functioning, and it is not uncommon for multiple areas to be negatively affected for an individual.”
From these scenarios arise short-term effects.
Behaviors such as refusing to go to school and reduced academic performance are common. Socially, children and adolescents can withdraw from certain social situations and develop social anxiety or fears of being with others.
Emotionally, individuals may experience more uncomfortable or unwanted emotions such as anger, sadness, worry and fear, while physically, children and adolescents may have difficulty sleeping or sleeping more or have changes in their eating habits, both undernourished and overfed, decreased immune function.
Bullying can have an immediate impact and can also impact the person long after the bullying is over.
“Adults who were bullied during their childhood and adolescence may have difficulty succeeding in a work environment as an adult or have difficulty with social interactions. They may have low self-esteem and may continue to be at increased risk for other mental health problems or increased risk for substance use / abuse, ”Tagg added.
Statistics coincide with first-hand observation
Looking back on the poll conducted by The Daily New, 97 parents said their child had been verbally abused by their bully. Behind them, 53 parents cited physical means as the cause of their child’s experience.
Tagg has seen firsthand where physical bullying occurs less frequently than social / emotional behaviors. Children and adolescents reported instances of physical bullying such as shoving, shoving and destroying property, however, the verbal became a more damaging example.
“What I mainly hear about are rumors that spread, because they often include so many others in the school environment,” Tagg said. “It’s not just between two kids or two teenagers because whoever has heard the rumor is involved and the rumors spread quickly.”
Cases of alleged bullying also do not appear to be discriminated against on the basis of age.
Children and adolescents of all ages in elementary, middle and high schools, public and private schools are subject to the effects of bullying. As Tagg mentioned, it’s hard to determine which age level is experiencing the most.
An Education Corner article said 90% of students in Grades 4-8 report being bullied or bullied. 28% of students in grades 6 to 12 are bullied and 20% of students in grades 9 to 12 are bullied.
These statistics also coincide with The Daily News survey.
School-aged children often manifest their stress through certain behaviors observed by parents. As children get older, they start to try harder to hide their distress, internalize it and become reluctant to report it, according to Tagg.
Parents, therapists, and schools are aware that bullying happens with children, but would it surprise you that teachers experience similar scenarios?
Educators are also victims of alleged bullying
Several months ago, someone claiming to be an Onslow County teacher who wished to remain anonymous contacted The Daily News, claiming to have been bullied on Facebook by one of his student’s parents.
Unable to respond on social media, the teacher said they were considering leaving school. During data collection for the survey, a participant claiming also to be a current teacher from Onslow recalled ongoing incidents of alleged bullying at an elementary school since 2012, but added that he feared possible retaliation if he spoke and refused to comment further.
North Carolina Educators Association Onslow Chapter President Anne Hardinger agrees it’s not just kids who are being bullied.
“Teachers have been and are intimidated by students, parents, even administrators and other teachers. Teachers are human, and so are parents. We are here because we love your children, and students need you. parents and educators work together. “
Describing educators as going far beyond teachers, Hardinger explained that a process of addressing the concerns of parents with their children should be done in a calm manner with the educator first. Surprisingly, 18% of parents who responded to the survey said they did not report the bullying incident to school.
Hardinger also stressed that parents and teachers need to understand exactly what bullying is and the importance of documentation.
“A negative example or conversation does not constitute bullying. And bullying and harassment can happen in many ways. Bullying and harassment creates a hostile environment for your child as well as for other children,” Hardinger added. “Everyone needs and deserves a positive work environment. “
For her personally, at Onslow, Hardinger has been fortunate to have good administrators who she believes support positive working conditions, but not all educators do.
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